Sleep is a hot topic among young mamas, and we’re all desperately seeking it. I am so excited to be teaming up with the lovely Hannah Renee and the Let’s Be Honest Mamas to share a little about sleep, or the lack thereof, we’ve experienced with Cove. We are also hosting a fun giveaway for two mama’s to receive a $100 gift card to aden + anais on Instagram, so be sure to check it out.
We just recently got this silky soft shibori dream blanket, and I am obsessed. It is SO SOFT. I have actually contemplated stealing it from Cove’s room so I can curl up with it. Anyways… back to sleep… Here are my answers.
How well does your babe sleep? Sleeping through the night? Taking good naps? None of the above?
I almost feel a little bad sharing because I don’t want to jinx myself with our next kid, but Cove started sleeping through the night at about two months. We had a harder time with naps, but once we got in a good routine, he took three naps a day until six months, then he took two, and now he is down to one, two to three hours long. Since two months, he sleeps from around 7:30 pm to 7:00 am. He only wakes up if he’s sick or teething. We are pretty strict when it comes to nap and bed time, which has really helped him sleep well and consistent.
Have you or are you planning to “sleep train”? How did you go about it?
Really early on we started sleep training with the Mom’s On Call sleep guide. My husband and I both agreed that we weren’t going to plan on anything so we went into parenthood not knowing if we would try sleep training, a schedule or nothing at all. About a month in, we were both dying from the lack of sleep and decided to try a schedule our friends, who are amazing and have such awesome sleepers and kids, recommended to us. You can find it here if you’re interested. It was life changing for us, but we really like a schedule so I think that was a huge factor. There are always little kinks here are there, like taking the paci away, when we stopped swaddling and teething, but overall, because we had sleep trained, all of those were just little bumps and Cove would go right back to sleeping the whole night through.
Describe your baby’s bedtime routine. Are there any products or methods you do to promote sleep?
Every night we give Cove a bath (alternating soap so it’s usually play time in the water) and then we will do lotion and put his pajamas on. We give him a bottle of warm milk and read a few books with him while he drinks. After he finishes, we brush his teeth, sing a lullaby and lay him down in the crib. He usually falls right to sleep or he’ll lay in bed for a little while chatting until he conks out. He is so used to the routine right now that sometimes he will reach for the bed, like “Okay guys, Im ready.” We also believe a schedule / routine isn’t for every baby, and it’s really based on them.
When he was little, we swaddled him every night and used a sound machine. Both were really helpful until about 6-8 months when he dropped them. He would also sleep with a paci, which he would usually spit out in the night, but it would help soothe him back to sleep if he woke up.
Did you try to create a “sleep schedule” or is it more flexible around your day?
For Cove, we definitely have a sleep schedule. Though, I do try to be flexible here and there. If we’re traveling or when the holidays come around, we shift things, but I really stick to the schedule as much as possible. Naps were more flexible at the beginning because he would sleep basically anywhere and in the car. But he started really preferring to sleep in his crib so it made it really hard.
How do you feel about co-sleeping? If you do co-sleep, how and when do you plan to transition to a crib/bed?
We did not choose to co-sleep because honestly, Cove slept better in his crib than anywhere else. We had him in a bassinet and he would wake up so easily, so we put him in his crib three days fresh from the hospital and he slept so well. We would let him nap on us all the time though and would also let him sleep in the mamaroo during the day. But at night, he always slept in his bed. Ian was more cautious with co-sleeping because we both move around a lot and didn’t want to chance it.
**I do want to add that sleeping is such a hard thing for moms and babies and there is definitely no RIGHT way to do it. You have to do what’s best for you and your family. I had so many opinions and judgements thrown my way when we first had Cove and it made motherhood so challenging. Do whatever is best for you and your baby and be willing to try new things if something isn’t working, but don’t let anyone make you feel bad about doing what’s best for you and your child.
Below are some beautiful mamas who have also participated in this panel. Be sure to check out all of their blogs to see their answers. I have loved being in community with them and getting to know them all.
Hannah Renee hannahreneeblog.com // Amanda Krovic amandakrovic.com // Sophia Johnson cultivatemotherhood.