Hey Everyone! It’s been a minute since I’ve shared a thoughts on things post. I’ve considered sharing what I’ve been learning about boundaries with you for a while. I even considered writing a whole blog post on it. But honestly, I’ve struggled with boundaries the majority of my life and felt like I needed to just sit on what I’ve been learning instead of trying to explain all the revelations I’ve had.
Let me rewind…
Total transparency here, please take what you read and know that it’s coming from a place of vulnerability and openness because I do not have it all together.
Last year, I was struggling with some stomach issues. I lost quite a bit of weight and kept needing blood tests to see if it was from abnormal hormones, thyroid issues, etc. We could never find any answers. I had a doctor tell me it was due to unconscious stress, and I was like, “Yeah, well I am actually pretty happy. So I don’t think that’s it…” Well, when every door seemed to be shutting in my face and I couldn’t get a hold on my health I thought, maybe he is right. Maybe I am stressed and it’s literally affecting me physically.
After praying through it with Ian, I realized there were some things eating my mind up and I was dwelling on things subconsciously without realizing it. Around the same time, I started reading this book called Boundaries. You can get it here. It couldn’t have been better timing. No book has changed my life more than the Bible, but this book has helped me view relationships with others and my own self better.
I’m learning to say “no” for my health and my family’s benefit and have overall become so much more content and at peace knowing I can only control myself and my thoughts. That doesn’t mean you let people walk all over you. That means you get to set the boundaries of how you get treated in a healthy way. If you have ever struggled with relationships with your family, friends, spouse, children or trying to change things about yourself and you feel like you’ve hit a wall or don’t know what to do, I couldn’t recommend this book more. This isn’t some sort of self-help kind of thing, or a book that tells you you’re beautiful and just keep being the super hero you are. It’s a book that shares real life scenarios and scripture to help you live according to the beautiful boundaries God’s given us.
Discrimination and This Week’s News Media
I have been so disheartened by what’s going on in our country right now. It makes me hyper aware, as I’m raising children, of the importance of constantly reminding ourselves to love others as ourselves. Discrimination is a moral and fundamental flaw people absorb and learn over time, not something you’re born with, and the concept of any race being superior to another should be cast out like the garbage ideology it is.
Jesus’ response to the great commandments of the law in Matthew 22:
“Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”
Will this post change the hearts of many? Probably not. But I do want to encourage you to live every minute of every day living out these commandments. Our neighbors and the strangers we see every day are impacted by the little things and how we live our life every day. We can go through the motions, or we can be intentional in showing love to every single person we come across.
I realize this post got a little heavy all at once, but thoughts on things are just that, thoughts on a variety of different things. I am going to leave you on a lighter note. In honor of casual Friday, I am going to share with you what my wardrobe looks like almost every day.
- Ripped jeans are my favorite kind of jeans. I am not sure why, but my all time favorite jeans all have holes in the knees. Sorry, Grandma.
- Fun little-detailed t-shirts are always my favorite. I would probably wear a t-shirt every day if I could. They are so comfortable and don’t have to be ironed, haha. I saw this one a few weeks ago and fell in love with the olive color, oversized fit and peplum details.
- Top it all off with Old Skool Vans and you’ve got the perfectly imperfect thrown together look, ha. All linked below.
I hope you all have a wonderful weekend. And if you have any thoughts or questions about the above, please let me know. Thanks for reading.